Parents Are More Aggravated By Their Kids Than In Previous Generations

A new Child Trends research brief says kids aggravate their parents more than they did 15 years ago, creating stress that could lead to less effective parenting.

Using data from the National Survey of American Families, taken in 1997, 1999 and 2002, as well as the National Survey of Children’s Heath, collected in 2003, 2007 and 2011/12, the researchers concluded that the proportion of parents who reported aggravation rose from 20 percent to 35 percent between 1997 and 2007. It has since flattened out; one-third of parents were aggravated when asked in 2012.

They determined aggravation using three markers: “how often the child does things that really bother the parent; how often the parent has felt the chid is much harder to care for than most other children of the same age and how often the parent has felt angry with the child,” the brief said.

The researchers note that parental coping skills have a big impact on interactions with children. “High levels of stress associated with the parenting role and parents’ impatience with their child may be reflected in inappropriately high behavioral expectations and/or coercive discipline. Over time, this parenting pattern can negatively affect child outcomes ranging from physical health to academic success to psychological and social well-being. Research finds that, on average, children of parents with high levels of aggravation are less well-adjusted and experience more negative outcomes.”

What they don’t know, they said, is whether recent economic shifts such as more employment for parents, family structure changes and less economic security have impacted overall parental aggravation.

Source: Deseret News

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[reposted by] Jim Liebelt

[reposted by] Jim Liebelt

Jim is Senior Writer, Editor and Researcher for the HomeWord Center for Youth and Family. Jim has over 30 years of experience as a youth and family ministry specialist, having served over the years as a pastor, author, consultant, mentor, trainer, college instructor, and speaker. Jim’s HomeWord culture blog also appears on and Jim and his wife Jenny live in Quincy, MA.

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