SESSION 7: Now What?
Doing Life With Adult Children
Lastly, we will round out our time together and leave you with some closing thoughts; a pep talk of sorts. Thank you for investing in your relationship with your kids, “It’s worth it!”
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Well, we’ve had some really great conversations together about doing life with your adult children, and I hope this has been helpful and encouraging as you seek to grow in your new role. And I hope you’ve been able to start applying some of these principles.
To round out our time together I want to leave you with some closing thoughts, a pep talk of sorts. First of all, I want to thank you. I want to thank you for your dedication to making this relationship with your adult children as healthy as it can be, and if you weren’t committed to that end, then I don’t think you would have gone through this process and put in the time to learn new approaches and principles to relating to and loving your children as well. For this, I commend you now.
Secondly, I want you to know that your life and your wisdom and your experiences and your faithful love toward your children is important and it’s valuable. It is seen and appreciated even in moments where it may not feel like it. This new relationship is not a sprint. It’s a marathon, much like most of the worthwhile things we do in life. So, don’t be discouraged if you don’t see immediate progress or fast results. Your heart is known by your creator, and he is telling you even now, “Well done good and faithful servant.”
Now lastly, I want to challenge you with this challenge that’s printed on the cover of my book. Keep your mouth shut and the welcome mat out. You may need to repeat that to yourself multiple times a day because it is definitely easier said than done. Trust me, I know. I speak from experience. I haven’t done this perfectly every time, and so this challenge is as much for me as it is for you, but you want to know what else you could trust me on? It’s worth it. Every time you choose to remain silent, every time you choose to listen, with openness, every instance where you welcome your child when you could easily, and even justifiably, show them where they messed up, every thoughtful encounter is investing into an abundance of more trust and willingness from your child to invite you in. And there’s nothing more beautiful than a relationship that operates out of abundance.