Romance: Something to Think About

Romance: Something to Think About

There is a significant drop in satisfaction in a couple’s romance and sex lives when children arrive on the scene. However, couples with the most positive families make sex and romance a priority. Don’t let kids, money, busyness or anything else rob you of romance. When I kiss Cathy in front of my kids, they act like they’re grossed out, but really they like it. It gives them security. The only way to make romance a priority is to schedule it on the calendar. Sure, a scheduled date night is not as spontaneous as your romantic activities were before you had children; but if you don’t schedule special times together, they probably won’t happen often enough.

Two Scripture verses from the New Testament are meaningful to me in this area. Ephesians 5:25 says, “Love your wives.” The actual Greek meaning is “Keep on loving [or even treasuring] your wives.” This goes for wives also. The other verse is not just about marriage, but it is one of our marriage’s foundation verses: “Outdo one another in showing honor” (Rom. 12:10, NRSV). When we try to treat our spouse as a king or queen, it shows our spouse that we care. Cathy likes to say, “Romance starts in the morning with how we treat each other throughout the day.”

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Jim Burns

Jim Burns is the president of HomeWord. He speaks to thousands of people around the world each year. He has close to 2 million resources in print in 20 languages. He primarily writes and speaks on the values of HomeWord, which are: Strong Marriages, Confident Parents, Empowered Kids, and Healthy Leaders. Some of his most popular books are: Confident Parenting, The Purity Code, Creating an Intimate Marriage, Closer, and Doing Life with Your Adult Children. Jim and his wife, Cathy, live in Southern California and have three grown daughters, Christy, Rebecca, and Heidi; three sons-in-law, Steve and Matt, and Andy; and three grandchildren, James, Charlotte and Huxley.

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